Help! My Kid is Looking at Pornography

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Please keep reading: We’ve partnered with our friends at Protect Young Eyes to create a set of steps that can help your family navigate this situation with calm and grace.

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1. Your child’s behavior is excessive.

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5. Your child says they want to see a counselor.

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01 - STAY CALM

Seriously! Don’t freak out. Wait for the right opportunity when you’re not in panic mode. You won’t get another chance to have the first talk and too many parents try to talk when emotions are high. Don’t do it. 

Other initial reminders:

1. Remind your child that they’re not in trouble and you still love them no matter what happens online.

2. Be strategic about who is involved. For example, if a daughter is using porn, she might be embarrassed to have her father involved in the initial conversation.

3. Calmly present the digital evidence that you found.

4. Share reasons why porn is such a distortion of real love. 

5. (Again) Remind your child that they aren’t in trouble, and you still love them.


02 - ASK FOR THEIR HELP

Whenever possible, invite your child into the solution. What ideas do they have for staying away from porn? Do they want to talk to someone like a counselor or youth leader? Any solution that is co-developed is going to be a solution that they are more likely to obey. In other words–lead with the relationship. Make it your goal to come out of this conversation with more digital trust with your child than when it started.

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03 - CLOSE DIGITAL DOORS

Our friends at Protect Young Eyes recommend four layers of digital protection in any home.

1. It starts with the relationship layer–leading by example, being curious and not condemning, having persistent and consistent conversations. All of these lead to greater digital trust.

2. Next is the locational layer. This means guarding against private spaces, bathrooms, bedrooms, and any other trouble spots for tech use. Avoid nighttime. Maybe use a “tech basket” in the kitchen (and parent devices go there, too). Look at your family and decide what locational safeguards are right for you.

3. Layers three and four are the technical layers. It starts with controlling the Wi-Fi network in your home with a strong router. Protect Young Eyes has some recommendations on their Resources page.

4. And the final layer is to control the devices when they’re not connected to the home Wi-Fi with software like Screen Accountability.

Parents will often ask us how to know if their child needs extra help. Our friends at Protect Young Eyes compiled this list of behaviors from various counseling websites: